IB 3 date rape

Date rape is usually looked as a stranger jumping out at you and sexually assaulting you, or when a stranger slips something in your drink so they can sexually harass you.  What people don’t know or think about is that most the time date rape is by someone you know or who is very close to you. There are many problems and positions when you think about date rape.  Date rape is something that happens everywhere but I am mainly focusing on date rape at ASU. Date rape is usually looked as a stranger jumping out at you and sexually assaulting you, or when a stranger slips something in your drink so they can sexually harass you.  What people don’t know or think about is that most the time date rape is by someone you know or who is very close to you.   Another thing we don’t realize is a lot of women call “date rape” because they don’t remember it happening, but the big question here is if we don’t remember it, is it automatically date rape?  Have you ever thought that maybe you drank too much that you became blacked out and had sexually relations with someone.  I know we all say well that still is date rape because I didn’t consent to it, but what you don’t think about is that you more then likely said yes while it was happening.  Sometime the guy and the girl are both blacked out and don’t remember it but yet the girl will press charges on the guy and say he raped her.  So the big question here is where is the line crossed and it’s actually date rape.   So my goal for this project/paper is to find out what date rape really is, and how we can define whether a situation was date rape or just a “drunken night” between two people.

 The shame involved in either being battered by or hurting someone we care for makes it hard to tell anyone, even those closest to us. Acquaintance Rape also known as date rape is one of the most common among female adolescents and college students. Someone the victim knew commits about 60% of all reported rapes. (Warshaw, 11) The most common way to get into trouble is the idea of “you say no but you mean yes.” Since women are most often the victims of date rape, they must be firm in their response against sexual advances.   Women sometimes will say no but they know they want it so they say yes.  Later they then say it was rape if they relationship with the guy goes bad or something like this.  There is a wide variety of spokespeople, feminine activists, and community leaders who have been assaulted and now speak publicly on the issue of Date Rape. One victim, Katie Koestner speaks on a national level and has been featured on the cover of TIME magazine, appeared on Oprah, NBC, CNN and has been published in The New York Times and The Chicago Sun-Times.

Every two minutes, somewhere in the world, someone is sexually assaulted. Of these approximately 248,000 victims, about 87,000 were victims of completed rape, and 70,000 were victims of sexual assault. Up to 4,315 pregnancies may have resulted from these attacks.  This is not okay.  This is something that we need to change and we need to start thinking more about.  We don’t ever think that date rape can happen because it hasn’t happened to us. The victim doesn’t have to be a young beautiful Female, older woman, men and kids get raped to. The victims, rapists, and motivation can be very different depending on the one committing the crime. Date rape is a controversial and ambiguous crime.    Date rape is not a rare incident that only happens in isolated situations. In fact, surveys indicate that in 84% of rape cases, the victim knew the attacker, and 57% of rapes occurred on dates (Warshaw 11).  There are so many ways to look at date rape because you never know if there was actually consent or not?  Do you think that if alcohol is involved it’s far to assume that it’s actually rape or maybe they both wanted it and it was rape on both parts?  When it comes to date rape there are so many different possibilities    but I think when it comes down to it you can tell when something is really date rape or just a date night gone bad.